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with Lauri Quinn Loewenberg I have recurring dreams about a baby crib. I can see it from the front and side, but when I try to look inside, all I see is a dark hole. The crib is dark beige and trimmed in pink with the name "Alysseus" on the side.
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I'm a single parent, 27, and have two children with two fathers. I have a wonderful blessing of a father of my son and the most evil father of my daughter. I've lost everything in the past year due to a violent relationship with this man. I moved back in with my parents and I'm attending the University of Phoenix full time as a senior.
I met a single man who looked 32, but is actually 41. We've gone on three dates and I wonder if anything good will happen with him. Should I write him off or is he finally my match? I'm puzzled about him—he gave some information that confused me. I can't make another man-mistake.
Dear Charm,
You must first deal with the "evil" father before anything serious can happen with any man. This may involve a legal restraining order, limited and supervised visitation with your daughter, or arranging child support. There is unfinished business there.
Then I see a somewhat older man as the one with whom you spend the rest of your life. The time period I see is three years. He'll be a challenge to you because the first thing on his mind toward you is not necessarily sexual and the games you played with those other men in the past only vaguely amuse him. He's waiting to see if you have enough maturity and respect for yourself to be a worthy companion for him.
He's got a unique life philosophy. This man doesn't care what other people think and your former ways of hooking a man won't work with him. He's got such a strong sense of his own priorities without being a jerk. And once he chooses his life partner, he'll be loyal, considerate and loving.
Is he your match? Well, do you feel more like yourself when you're with him, or are you trying to be what you think he wants? Answer that and you'll know. Your assignment: Fill a page listing the ways you've compromised yourself to have a romantic relationship. At the bottom, write: "I will no longer live my life for anyone else; I will attract only authentic, mutually loving relationships." Then safely burn the paper.
Find yourself and you'll easily find love.
I've been married to my husband for almost four years. We have a daughter who'll be 3 in December. I invited his "best friend" to stay with us and be the child's godmother. All was fine for about a month, then things got weird. She'd be nasty to me on and off, and treat my daughter as if she was hers. She's since gone home, but I found porno films in her closet, a tape of she and me talking, and sexy pictures taken in my house with my daughter around. One of my husband's friends (psychic, to a degree) said she was evil, in love with him, etc. He supposedly stopped talking to her, but sent her a picture of himself. I have to wonder if they're involved (she also has a boyfriend), why he has such loyalty to her, and if she'll ever go away. My husband's psychic friend gave us a "bath" to cleanse ourselves, then oil to protect us, but she is still around. I love my husband and hope we can work through this.
Dear Wit's End,
The trust in your relationship has eroded. This should be handled by a therapist. The cards say you'll get past this with outside help, so if your husband won't go to counseling with you, it's important that you go. Stop talking about "that woman"—you're perpetuating the intrigue.
Mona Van Joseph is a licensed psychic in Las Vegas. E-mail: [email protected].